One November 2013 evening (o-em-gee, the wedding was getting closer!) as my mom and I scrolled through veils on Pinterest, I said to her,
“I saw this adorable idea on a wedding blog. They suggested brides gather all the bows and ribbon from the bridal shower and use them as a bouquet at the rehearsal. Wouldn’t that be original?”
Mom smiled at the thought back in time.
“Oh, I know that one. It’s been a tradition at least since your grandma got married.”
Ha! My mom let me in on a bit of reality about some of these clever ideas I’d been reading that are really not new.
While planning my wedding, I searched for the perfect balance of modern originality (see my post with some trendy centerpieces http://wp.me/p3DajE-4X) and vintage looks worthy of Daisy Buchanan herself. I hailed everything I saw on Pinterest as novel or new. A lot of these ideas came from somewhere.So, how long have people been brewing hot cocoa in their crock pots anyway?
In my ignorance, I forgot to ask my mother what long-standing traditions our family ought to remember. My wedding aesthetic plans took a turn that night. They transformed from just picking out the best clippings from my Bride’s magazine to something personal.
In the process of making a meaningful aesthetic, I started to lean toward the “90’s Bride”. I did not realize what I was doing until about halfway through and I was comparing two very different veils I wanted to make. On one hand, I had a Pin of a minimalist layer of tulle held down by a flower wreath.
It was simple, modernAnd quite woodland fairy if you ask me.
I chose this one.
Then there was this blushing beauty. Even as I looked at bohemian tulle tied in stylized knots, Juliet cap veils, and elegant mantillas, I kept coming back to this veil. It made me so happy!
The fullness of the tulle and that cluster of flowers on the comb of this veil reminds me of the fashions of the nineties – full sleeves, full hair, and full veils, sadistic bridesmaid dress designs. The nineties bride was loud and proud. Having grown up as a child with these images of brides and weddings, although kitsch, the 90’s look is quintessential for what I think a bride should be.
To me, pictures of brides from the nineties radiate more joy than any other decade. I wanted to look and feel like a joyous bride who was ready to leap into a new life with my groom. Furthermore, with the current trends: lips & mustaches, bunting banners, graphic invitations, burlap, and mason jars floating around Pinterest and the internet, NOBODY was doing the 90’s look! I had this one all to myself.
And now for my veil:
Cutting tulle evenly is very difficult. Professional veil makers cut their tulle differently than I did; they just have to. I believe they use a giant cookie cutter or a laser, not scissors. The fabric wants to catch and snag, so I had to be very careful and re-trim the edges. My edges were not perfect, but close. A fluffy veil with a lot of layers will mask scissor imperfections.
Although not pictured well, I cut my tulle in a long oblong shape. A rounder circle makes a fuller veil.
My veil is four layers. I only showed pictures of making the first layer. If you want four layers, repeat the previous step, but make everything longer than the previous layer. This layer will go beneath the shorter tulle. Measure everything and try things on a you go.
Decorate your comb and sew everything together. I had a lot of fun building up a “tiara” of silk flowers and ribbon. I sewed ribbon to the comb like a multi-layer bow (folded like bunny ears). On top, I piled silk flowers and some clay flowers on wire that a florist gave to me.
The steps I took in comb decorating are too complicated for me to fully describe, so I will leave you with: first wrap ribbon around the comb (between the teeth) and then have fun sewing and/or gluing decorations.
My wedding aesthetic had elements from many past decades. My dress was contemporary, veil 90s-esque, 1950s necklace I inherited from my Grandma who had recently passed away. The ceremony music had classical and 1940s pieces. The wedding reception music emphasized heavily of 50s swing, 60s and 70s disco, and 80s dance, and line dances. My Uncle Dave’s photography during formals gave a 1950s feel with the bridal party group shots. I used what I found fit for each detail.
Remember, a 90s bride is a happy bride!